If you are receptive to other people’s suggestions and not set in your ways, then you are not only open to change, but flexible. Mahatma Gandhi taught, “be the change that you wish to see in the world.” It is natural to want things to be better and for things to be easier and calmer in our lives, but unless we open ourselves up for that transformation, it is never going to happen.
When you think of being receptive to change as being flexible, then one key word describes what you must do: stretch. Stretch your limits, stretch your intellect, stretch your emotions, and if necessary, stretch your wallet. Stretch is the most accurate word used to describe what people must do who want to be more flexible and respond to change more positively.
Some people believe that if they never change and just stay in the same place they never fall behind. That is faulty thinking. Think of a car parked on the motorway. Do other cars pass it by? Does that car ever get anywhere? The same is true in life. Even if you move at the pace of a tortoise, you are moving forward and slowly accepting change.
When you stretch yourself to take on new challenges that require new skills, you are becoming more flexible. You are also gaining the confidence necessary so when you hit a bump in the road (and you will), you can deal with it and move forward from it. The first step is to overcome irrational fears of change. Not only does this boost self-confidence, but it also aids in anticipating change. You become more proactive and more involved in the change process.
Some people theorize that the only person who likes change is a baby. Well, isn’t a baby open to all possibilities? One cannot be unless they welcome change. In today’s world one should expect less stability and more change in their career and their life. Rare is it that someone today works 30 years for a corporation and receives that gold watch. Instead, it takes employing that entrepreneurial spirit in our daily lives to create that stability we are looking for. To survive and thrive, we must be flexible. And, the best way is to stretch yourself by taking on new challenges; getting out of your comfort zone.
When you do start to get a “thrill” from being outside your comfort zone, you are starting to live your dreams without restraints. Victor Hugo’s “Les Miserables” challenges us to dream the dream. In the musical, the signature song tells us that when we dream the dream, hope is high and life worth living.
One cannot begin to dream without restraints until they are honest about their dreams. Your dreams are yours. Your dreams are not your parents, your spouse’s, your family’s, or anyone who says, “you should do …” Your dreams are you. You are your dreams. Until you begin to live a life that journeys toward those dreams you are never going to live a life by your design.
Along that journey, one of the first steps is to decide and believe. Preparation is key in both deciding and believing. Psychologist Dr. Murray Banks teaches, “if you can visualize it, if you can feel it, if you can taste it … you cannot NOT make it happen.” In order to achieve your dreams, they must become second nature. They must seem as natural as breathing or pouring that morning cup of coffee. Your dreams become part of you.
Finally, when you dream without restraints, you know that mistakes are lessons. What others perceive as a mistake; you see as a learning opportunity. There is no excuse not to keep moving forward. You never give up. You are also aware of two certainties: First, FEAR is an acronym for False Expectations Appearing Real, and Second, the only way to fail is to give up. All failures occur when someone gives up. That is the only way to fail.
Dream your dream. Record your wins along the way. Even the smallest wins return the largest dividends. It is 100% up to you. Only you can implement your dreams. Only you can dream your dreams. Only you can make your dreams come true. The world is waiting to see that you that you are dreaming.
And, throughout your day remind yourself this is “My Moment to Succeed.”
bartism: Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined. -thoreau
bart is a nationally known, sought-after motivational speaker, author, blogger, personal coach, trainer, entrepreneur, and major advocate of the theatre community.
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