1. What is, is. Buddha teaches that it is our resistance to ‘what is’ that causes our suffering. The answer is to take action and change the situation. If you cannot change, you have two options. You can accept it and move on, or be miserable and throw a pity-party.
2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem. Often we are our own worst enemy. Our perspective dictates if we see something as a problem or if we see an opportunity to learn and grow.
3. If you want things to change, you must start with yourself. Our reality is a reflection of the environment we create. In order to change our circumstances, we must first change our perspective, which changes our reaction.
4. There is no such thing as failure. We should eliminate the word ‘failure’ from our vocabulary. Michael Jordan, arguably one of the best basketball players ever, once said, “I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.” From our perceived failures we can learn how to improve.
5. If you don’t accomplish what you desire, it just means something better is ahead. The Universe is in-tune with what we seek to create. We must have faith that everything happens the way it’s supposed to.
6. Appreciate the present; this moment never comes again. This moment is a gift; that is why it is called “the present.” Give gratitude for the gift.
7. Let go of desire. Most people live “attached.” When you attach to an outcome or desire and don’t achieve, emotions become negative. Focus on detaching. When your emotions are neutral, you are happy with whatever the outcome may be.
8. Understand and be grateful for your fears. Fear is powerful. It is an illusion or manifestation of what we envision could happen. We can learn a great deal from fear and overcoming fear is a win; it just takes practice.
9. Allow yourself to experience joy. Gratitude is the key. Have fun and be grateful for the fun you have. Don’t pursue happiness; create happiness.
10. Don’t compare yourself to others. We are unique, an original. Celebrate your uniqueness and embrace your originality.
11. You are not a victim, so get out of your own way. You are only a “victim” of your own thoughts, words, and actions. No one “does” something to you. You are the creator of your own experience. If it is to be, it is up to me.
12. Things change. Many rely on “And this too shall pass” as their mantra. Instead, subscribe to Gandhi’s philosophy, “Be the change.”
13. Anything can happen. Rather than believing “stuff happens,” believe “miracles happen.” Mary Poppins teaches, “Anything can happen if you let it. If you reach for the stars, all you get are the stars. But if you reach for the heavens, you get the stars thrown in for free.”
What tip can you share when things get tough?