I have learned that obstacles are opportunities and instead of giving up, one needs to course correct. The key ingredient is attitude. The Universe understands and senses our vibration. So, how is that vibration manifested? Attitude. I came across a Baker’s Dozen of tips that lead to a strong, positive attitude when times get tough.
1. What is, is. Buddha teaches that it is our resistance to ‘what is’ that causes our suffering. The answer is to take action and change the situation. If you cannot change, you have two options. You can accept it and move on, or be miserable and throw a pity-party.
2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem. Often we are our own worst enemy. Our perspective dictates if we see something as a problem or if we see an opportunity to learn and grow.
3. If you want things to change, you must start with yourself. Our reality is a reflection of the environment we create. In order to change our circumstances, we must first change our perspective, which changes our reaction.
4. There is no such thing as failure. We should eliminate the word ‘failure’ from our vocabulary. Michael Jordan, arguably one of the best basketball players ever, once said, “I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.” From our perceived failures we can learn how to improve.
5. If you don’t accomplish what you desire, it just means something better is ahead. The Universe is in-tune with what we seek to create. We must have faith that everything happens the way it’s supposed to.
6. Appreciate the present; this moment never comes again. This moment is a gift; that is why it is called “the present.” Give gratitude for the gift.
7. Let go of desire. Most people live “attached.” When you attach to an outcome or desire and don’t achieve, emotions become negative. Focus on detaching. When your emotions are neutral, you are happy with whatever the outcome may be.
8. Understand and be grateful for your fears. Fear is powerful. It is an illusion or manifestation of what we envision could happen. We can learn a great deal from fear and overcoming fear is a win; it just takes practice.
9. Allow yourself to experience joy. Gratitude is the key. Have fun and be grateful for the fun you have. Don’t pursue happiness; create happiness.
10. Don’t compare yourself to others. We are unique, an original. Celebrate your uniqueness and embrace your originality.
11. You are not a victim, so get out of your own way. You are only a “victim” of your own thoughts, words, and actions. No one “does” something to you. You are the creator of your own experience. If it is to be, it is up to me.
12. Things change. Many rely on “And this too shall pass” as their mantra. Instead, subscribe to Gandhi’s philosophy, “Be the change.”
13. Anything can happen. Rather than believing “stuff happens,” believe “miracles happen.” Mary Poppins teaches, “Anything can happen if you let it. If you reach for the stars, all you get are the stars. But if you reach for the heavens, you get the stars thrown in for free.”
What tip can you share when things get tough?
As a kid, I would take great pleasure in casting a stone across a pond and seeing how many “jumps” I could get and how much of a ripple I could create. I could spend hours casting and counting. There seemed to be no greater pleasure than getting one extra jump on my next throw.
Mother Teresa taught that one person cannot change the world, but much like a kid casting that stone, you can create many ripples. As I continue to be a student of Personal Development, I am constantly reminded that creating that ripple is far more powerful.
There were times in my not-too-distant-past when my business would stagnate or conflict would come into my life and I would “freak.” Rather than creating a ripple with a single stone, I would opt to do a cannonball off the cliff.
Anyone who has ever cannonballed knows that it can be quite painful and dangerous. The same is true in life. When you jump in just to make an impact, unforeseen consequences may follow. My mantra is, “slow, simple, and calm.” Isn’t that how you create the ripple with the stone? You take aim and gently and calmly toss the stone across the waters. As the stone jumps, a new ripple begins. As those ripples expand, soon they meet and intertwine. Eventually, the ripple is so large and massive; it may be beyond what the eye can see.
This is what I am learning. I gently let go and allow the Universe to do what it does best –allowing those ripples to grow unobstructed. When that happens, the effect I caused is still at the center and I can still visually see the results of my efforts. In life, that is the center of my Universe.
To learn more about my Personal Development program, reach back to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Here’s to one incredible ripple effect!
bart is a nationally known, sought-after motivational speaker, author, blogger, personal coach, trainer, entrepreneur, and major advocate of the theatre community.
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