Have you ever planted a seed that never produced? Did you continue to plant that same type of seed season after season after season and still no results? Did you forget to water and fertilize?
Life is much the same way. If you fail to feed your mind, soul, spirit, and body then life rarely produces the results you envision. You pledge to make things better, but do you? You begin to ask yourself if you know how.
Are you a list maker and goal setter with the intent this time is going to be different? Yet, you keep replanting bad seeds. There is a monumental difference between goal setting and goal achievement. Goal setting is nothing more than making a resolution on New Year's Eve.
Goal achievement begins with a commitment to detailing steps you'll take in transforming your life.
Transforming your life can be easy, but not always simple. You may have years of habits, unreal expectations, and a past you're allowing to drag you down. You may have the desire to change and improve, but you've convinced yourself you're in quicksand. The more determined you become, the deeper in quicksand you go. Your subconscious convinces you it is easier to fight the quicksand than it is to venture into uncharted territory.
If you feel like your past is holding you back or dictating your future, take advice from Bette Midler. When asked to look back on her career, Bette said, “I never look back. When you look back, you can’t go forward.”
That doesn't mean you don't learn from your past. Your past is part of you, it got you to where you are today. However, it doesn't define you. If you allow it to define you then the future rarely changes.
When you allow your past to define you, you often create a façade that serves as an outer shell. This outer shell is much like a umbrella in the rain. It may keep the rain off your head, but in a storm you're bound to get wet.
Living a façade is much like acting. As an actor creates a character, they take on many of the character’s personality traits. Actors can become so ingrained in the character that many of the character’s personality traits become routine behavior. Yet, they are not the character and thus may lose sight of who they really are.
Acknowledging a façade may be a bitter pill to swallow, yet may be a very healthy process. Change begins with acknowledgement. If you're not sure if you have a façade, ask yourself, “Am I someone I would like?” If your answer is “No,” or if you are not sure, then you most likely have one.
Eventually, façades become a coping mechanism. They can help you fit in and provide momentary gratification. Consider them a false attempt to increase your self-esteem. In actuality, that increase is shallow and temporary.
Facing a façade takes courage. In Newsies, the Musical, we learn, "Courage cannot erase our fears. Courage is when we face our fears." It is critical to face your façade and to enrich your life with positive influencers.
Jim Rohn teaches you are the average of the five people you most associate with. Those five people are your most consistent influencers. In order to not plant that same seed, it may be necessary to change your circle of influence. Associating doesn't mean you must physically interact. Influencers can be known gurus in your field of interest. Turn to YouTube, podcast, iTunes, etc., to be influenced by people like Les Brown, Deepak Chopra, Oprah Winfrey, Bob Proctor, etc.
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Begin today by adopting the bartism, "If it is to be, it is up to me." Change your mindset and you'll change your results.
bart is a nationally known, sought-after motivational speaker, author, blogger, personal coach, trainer, entrepreneur, and major advocate of the theatre community.
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