First, work harder than you think you did yesterday. Always know there are going to be obstacles, doubters, and mistakes. But, with hard work there are no limits.
As you work harder, make sure you minimize your need for instant gratification. Instant gratification is a habit where you forgo short-term hardships in order to gain short-term pleasure. Instant gratification may lead to long-term pain, procrastination, and self-sabotage. Instead, generate a habit of delayed gratification.
Delayed gratification is where you forgo shot-term pleasure in order to gain significant long-term results and massive rewards in the future. You ignore temptations that may distract you. Know that as you minimize instant gratification, you may experience short-term pain and stress. Realize this is temporary. Soon gratification becomes satisfaction.
By creating a habit of delayed gratification, you are strengthening your mind and shaping your character. Remember, your character is your brand. The result is increased willpower, self-discipline, and patience. These are all attributes found in successful entrepreneurs. Ask yourself the following:
- What do I want to achieve?
- How do I plan to achieve this?
- Why do I want and deserve this?
- What are the benefits of going for and attaining this goal?
- Why is it important to work towards this vision?
In gaining delayed gratification it is important to become an active listener. Active listening is when the listener can restate or paraphrase what they have heard in their own words. This confirms the message heard was the message intended. Often people listen with the intent of responding. When this happens, the message is lost. Fully concentrate on what is being said rather than passively hearing the message.
Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, and others over self. Active listening is a skill that can be acquired and developed with practice. It may be difficult to master at first and takes time and patience. A few tips to becoming an active listener:
- Focus on being interested, not interesting
- Start by asking questions
- Look for commonalities
- Listen with all your attention (turn off any distractors)
- Communicate you are listening with a nod or a “mmm-hmm”
- Occasionally paraphrase what has been said for confirmation
- Validate the speaker’s emotions
- Maintain eye contact
- Let go of your ego – your own agenda
When you create a habit of hard work and delayed gratification you begin to experience success. And, throughout your day remind yourself this is “My Moment to Succeed.”
bartism: The word listen contains the same letters as the word silent. ~alfred brendel